By Matthew Johnson
Nine months ago, I lost my mother to dementia. Grief has been a constant companion since then, teaching me lessons I never expected to learn.
The Weight of Firsts
When you lose someone you love, the first year is filled with milestones you brace yourself for:
- Christmas, New Year’s, birthdays
- Mother’s Day, anniversaries
- Holidays and special traditions
I expected those days to hurt—and they did. But what surprised me most were the moments in between. A song on the radio, a phrase she used to say, or even catching myself repeating her words—these moments brought tears without warning. They reminded me that grief doesn’t just live in the big days; it shows up quietly in the everyday.
And yet, I’ve come to see those moments as reminders that she is still with me. If she lives in my heart and mind, then she hasn’t left me entirely.
Why We Struggle to Talk About Grief
One thing every person has in common is that we will all lose someone close to us. Eventually, we too will be the ones left behind. So why do we struggle to talk about grief?
The answer is simple—it hurts. Facing loss makes us vulnerable. But when we find community with others who share these experiences, grief becomes lighter. Pain that is carried together doesn’t feel as heavy.
Healing in Community
At Clayton Counseling LLC, we believe that healing happens in connection with others. That’s why we’re creating a Grief and Loss Group, a safe space where people can come together, share their stories, and support one another.
Grief is inevitable, but you don’t have to go through it alone.
If you or someone you love could benefit from walking through this journey in community, visit Clayton Counseling LLC for more details. Together, we can honor our loved ones while learning how to carry grief with compassion and strength.
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